December 28th, 2011 
cagreinvented 
HEY CAGGERS!!
I’m back with yet another post documenting my latest ridiculous ideas and musings. (I know you thought I was going to slack off now didn’t you?) I really want to get back to my roots of blogging about my personal life in a more mature, PG-13 sort of way because let’s be honest. I can’t afford paying my therapist past those 5 free EPA sessions. I’ve had 3 sessions so far to help me through my mourning process, but I need to preserve the last 2 sessions for another tragedy; not that I’m trying to speak one into existence. Therefore instead of therapy junkie like Monk, I will get your advice for free from my readers because HELLO!! It’s free. 
Besides, even though I don’t plan to be single for the rest of my life the fact remains that I’m still a fabulous single girl and most of my friends are married and/or involved at the moment. Therefore, by default I am THAT friend by which they live vicariously through. Check out my latest single girl endeavor when you read the rest of this post…
If anyone in my situation were to give up on love I would TOTALLY understand. I’m no longer a spring chicken and one would think this dating thing gets easier with age but I’m convinced it just gets worse! Also, with all the do-gooder stuff I do I just knew the karma gods would throw me a bone or two this year. (Not that I do for others to get anything in return…even if it’s a good man) But hello! The last couple of frogs I dated sure didn’t turn into my prince. ::sigh::
After being single for the last four years I decided to give love a chance, but unfortunately it didn’t work out for me. In addition, while I would love to bash the last few “gems” I dated, it would totally be counterproductive. I mean why announce to you all there ‘turd status’ when they already know it?! (Hmm…I guess I just did) All and all, despite my debacle of a dating year I have not given up on men and love. What can I say? I’m a hopeless romantic that likes to get laid on occasion. HA! However, instead of taking my normal ‘get swept off my feet’ approach (because pretty eyes do lie!), I’m going to take a more methodical, non-fantasy strategy to love. This serves as the perfect segue to telling you all about the pact I made with my ex-boyfriend. I will refrain from giving him a name at the moment. I’ll the call him the ex for now.
Without getting too deep into our background right now, in summary I dated the ex about seven years ago but we broke up because neither of us (i.e. he) were mature enough to handle a long distance relationship. He and I have remained friends throughout the years, but we undeniably have an amazing chemistry. We have very similar backgrounds, have amazing conversation (yes we finish each other’s sentences) and he’s one of the few people on the planet that really ‘gets me’…well sometimes. However he does have his, as do I, which is why our new found “pact” should be that much more interesting!!
For your entertainment pleasure the ex and I made a deal that we would “date” over the next year and then on my 30th birthday, if we still don’t have significant others we would “make it official”. Why now you ask? Hello! I’m did you not see that I’m about to be 30! (Smile) Plus, he is probably one of the only men I know that would be comfortable with me discussing our situation so that other people may benefit i.e. be entertained. Moreover, I know I’m speaking in a satirical tone, but he and I are totally taking this serious. I normally don’t entertain the idea of getting back with an ex, but who knows? This might actually work!
A few days ago my big brother actually inspired me to embark on this social experiment (even though he may not realize it). He basically told me to look at [relationships] like an MBA case study. He suggested I do the following:
- Look at the problem
- look at the alternatives
- Make a plan
- Then execute
- You will have the man of your dreams by March
While this may be a bit of a purist outlook, not to mention I’m not looking for my ‘dream man’ by March, I think this ex pact will be a good case study to get my feet wet for now. I hope you will stay tuned for more “Ex-Pact Series…” headlines on my blog and even some vlog footage in the near future! Yes I got a video camera for Christmas and I’m amped to use it!! YAAAAAAAY!!!
What do you think about my plan?! Is it completely outlandish? Have you ever dated an ex and it worked out in your favor? Let me know your thoughts.
Until Next Time…STAY FAB!!
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Hello CAG (long time no hear)
I think the principle of what you are doing is a good idea. Considering someone who you have a solid friendship with is a good idea for building a relationship. The best relationships have a solid friendship at their core. I’ve always been a little skeptical of dating ex’s because there is always a reason they are your ex. But as I’ve gotten older I realize people can change and mature so it is possible revisiting a previous relationship can work. I look forward to seeing how it turns out!
Nope, ex’s are just that for a reason, but if it works for you…more power to you.
HAHA…I knew you would say that Daniel-San….lol
I think u can do anything u put ur mind to…. Go for it!!!!!
Normally I’d agree with Daniel-San and say, “he’s your ex for a reason”. But the fact that you guys have remained good friends for so long and with Ubiquity’s compelling comment, I’d say it can’t hurt to try.
(& this seems like a plot to a romantic comedy)
I think it sounds like fun… I mean at worst he stays an ex, at best you end up with a husband lol. Either way, the dating thing should be fun to read about!
First, I have to ask, what you mean by “Date” your ex? I agree that ex’s are just that for a reason. Second, I can’t speak for any other man but the idea of perusing anything serious with a woman who is still “dating” her ex to be very troublesome. So, finding a “significant other” while involved in this pact may be very difficult. In which case, you might as well go ahead and make it official now.
First, I have to ask, what exactly do you mean by “date” your ex? Secondly, I generally agree that ex’s are just that for a reason. Finally, although I cannot speak for all men, I have to say that I find the idea of pursuing anything serious with a woman who is “dating” her ex to be somewhat disturbing (I suspect many other men may feel the same). In which case, you might as well go ahead and make it official now. Good luck with that though, I’m sure you’ll let us know how it all works out for you.
Seven years is a good bit of time and people can mature. If the break wasn’t bad, it could work out positively. If it did end badly, regardless of how good of friends you think you are, be careful
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